“Mom, dad – where do babies come from?”
For most parents, the idea of talking with their kids about the birds and the bees is equivalent to sticking their hand into an open fire. However, whether one likes it or not, having the Talk about sex with your child is absolutely necessary.
The fact is that kids today actually know a lot more about sex than we think they do. Rather than condoning sex, having the Talk allows you to teach your child vital information, responsible sexual behaviour and healthy attitudes toward the act.
To those who are a tad bit anxious and uncomfortable on having the Talk (in which it’s only natural to feel so), here are some tips to put you and your young one in a less awkward situation.
All Facts and No Lies.
Keep it short, sweet, and informative — it is better to focus on the facts and keep graphic details at minimum. Certain topics that you should consider going through with your child includes:
- How are boys and girls different, e.g. explaining the male and female anatomy, reproduction systems and respective puberty changes.
- Sexual intercourse, pregnancy and contraceptions.
- Other forms of sexual behaviour, including oral sex, masturbation, and petting
- The physical and emotional aspects of sex, including the differences between males and females
- Sexually transmitted diseases
- Dangers and sexual harassments, e.g. rape or accepting rides or going to private places with strangers
Also, it is important to always remember this – what and how you answer is important. Target on answers that will educate and allow them to understand themselves better.
Don’t Judge and Be Open.
Junior is bound to have several eye-popping and exhilarating questions for you. In fact, you might even be probed on about your past! However, it is best to have them not feeling like they’re being judged for asking the questions; or else several awkward pauses are sure to occur in the Talk.
Give them room to be curious, and as mentioned above, your answers should be factually sound enough to empower him or her to make safe decisions for themselves in the future.
Practice.
You might feel and think you’re ready, but when it comes to the actual scenario and your kid asks you things like “what is ejaculation?” or “how does the egg and sperm meet?” — you may find yourself stumbling over your words.
A little run-through and perhaps a rehearsal between both parents before the talk may make the conversation go much more smoothly. Remember, practice makes perfect.
Video Education.
If talking is not really your thing, there are certain videos out there that both parties can watch.
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