What is love? Love is a feeling or something that has more than one definition because every individual defines love differently. If you feel that you have fallen head over heels for someone and you're itching to find out if that person feels the same, you have to ask the right question. Love is a wonderful feeling, but it can hurt you if your relationship with that person is going no where.
So, how do you know how he or she feels? Follow these three steps to find out:
Choose the right time
Are you ready for a committed relationship? If you're not ready, don't go asking how he or she feels about you. To be together with someone, you have to be ready and not jump into it. Think about what kind of relationship that you can commit yourself to for a long time (or forever).
Aside from that, if you are just about to meet him or her, please do not ask 'Do you love me?'. That potential partner will run for the door or stop contacting you altogether. Give time and space for both of you to know each other.
If you have known each other for quite some time, choose the right place to ask such a question. Be sure that it's a place that's not too crowded or during lunch time on working days. Choose the right time and place.
Be clear
You have already gone out with this person and have been contacting each other often. Maybe both of you have never had 'the talk' about your relationship - are you together or just friends?
Language is a tool to communicate, use it wisely. Don't just ask 'what does our relationship mean?' and wait for an answer. It is important to think of what message you would like to send across. Maybe she's not ready or he's shy. This is a big question for a relationship to move forward and can be rather sensitive. Therefore, be tactful and choose the right words. For example, start by telling this person how you feel and ask if he or she feels the same.
It's easier for the other person to open up when you share your feelings first. By analysing the 'love signs' like the way he WeChats you everyday, or how she always calls you or when he praises your outfit are simply not going to tell you how this person really feels.
Stay calm, be ready
Well, not every love story ends with a happy ending. Sometimes, love stories end because you're meant to meet someone else better. So, stay calm and be ready for the answer to your question.
Maybe he says 'yes' or 'no' or even 'I don't know!'. Worst, your lover-to-be may not even answer you question at all. Hence, you have to be ready to listen to the answer even though it might not be what you wish for. Remember, he or she may be thinking about the long-term commitment and is not ready to give you a definite answer just yet.
Let's say if this person is not committed to give you an answer and still avoids talking to you after a few months, forget about it. Time is precious, don't waste your time missing someone who doesn't value you.
Life is filled mysteries and memorable experiences. Never give up and who knows, you might just find the one this 2014.
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