A lot of times conflicting thoughts and emotions can become overwhelming, making us second-guess everything. This applies to all aspects of life – work, travel, home, but most apparent of all – in the affairs of the heart that always manage to turn even the most sanest person crazy.
Many women have confessed to living on the fence for years before deciding for good what they actually wanted. It's not so much a case of finally knowing what they really want; it's more of feeling tired and frustrated from being stuck in a rut and therefore, just wanting to get it over and done with.
A relationship stays alive with the sole understanding of both parties wanting to stick it out and work at it. They find that what they have is something worth the nitty gritty. But sometimes, it appears that our love is suffocating us. Things just don't seem quite right.
We get to the questioning state of whether this is really what we want. Is he/she worth the effort? Can we live with this person or more importantly can I live without him/her? Do we have the potential to work? What if I don't find anyone else? Am I meant to feel this way? Am I happy?
That last question is the most imperative to our life, isn't it?
Happiness is a decision
If we're happy with the person that we're with, we wouldn't be feeling this way right? Wrong! Being with this special person makes us human, makes us vulnerable to fears and doubts. We are vulnerable because he or she brings out the best and worst in us. It's not always sunshine and rainbow. And that is ok, because what matters is how we respond to these feelings.
Can you let go of your uncertainties? Are you confident things will get better? A lot of our decision-making relies heavily on our emotions. Logic has little to do with it unfortunately. Your mind may be able to present the good and bad points of the relationship, but when emotions come into play, you can't help but listen to your feelings. Correct?
When you're not looking into the deep issue at hand, rest assured your relationship is dying a slow painful death. Nothing will seem right until you address what it is that is making you feel this way. Misery as they say loves company. All the other areas of your life will suffer too in consequence.
Now, there's no wrong or right way to go about this. Your mind as well as your gut feeling can actually be a good indicator of what you should do. Listen intently to what your senses are telling you.
Life is really too short to be a game of second-guessing. If the heart is deeply unhappy, then perhaps to leave is the best thing to do. A swift decision is better than a prolong spell of unhappiness. But if you can't imagine a life without your other half, then there are lots of things that need to be worked out. Know what you want and do not be afraid to find your happiness.
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